Change is not easy to bear at times, accepting constant change around need an another level of maturity and interpersonal skills. This world and surrounding we live in is intend to evolve and change over a period of time. We can't be same person through out, so we need to accept it. Why it become at time so difficult for us to over come and embrace change ? Probably its natural adaptation for some people but for few its too tuff. what could be the reason ?
We all have our own way of looking at life in its different dimensions. We understand life is all about constant changes which we gone through naturally. We develop with time- our beliefs, perceptions, values and keep uplifting all with our constant interaction with peoples, cultures, norms etc. Then why at some point of life journey we become so stubborn to accept reality, facts of change and so many things which doesn't match our existing personality and surrounding. Why we seek strong thrust or push to cope up with some particular change in life like : Job loss, loss of family member, loss of any loved one, divorce, major accident and body part loss etc. These changes become cause of depression or some kind of mental disorder in few and few people overcome these traumas to become more motivated personality.
What are those factors which made us or break, here are few :
Emotions : Change always get associate with emotions, we feel some kind of emotions when we face any type of change in professional and personal life. Emotions brake us in case of negative and change of loss, in case of positive change emotions make us and we become exited for life. So keeping emotions in balance is the key to get over change and handle good change over.
Change is not always loss : We get completely hopeless when we face negative change in our life. we look at loss and end of our happiness. It is natural behavior of any person, we humans are pleasure driven where we feel bad we start cutting off ourselves. We don't want to face reality when it does not come according our expectations. All loss are actually not real loss in life, they are opportunity for better being, better professional, better person etc. It takes time to realize positive side of any loss. If we do a true reality check then it can play significant role in better future choices and decisions.
Expectations : Human are full of expectations, we use to expect from our loved ones, friends and our professional connections. Expectation cause major problem when change accrue. Expectation is not bad but unrealistic expectation is always harmful. Understanding emotions and expectation pragmatically helps to take right path.
Reasons for change : Understanding reasons and real causes for change make change easy to accept. If a detailed analysis done with proper reasoning change is not just become easy it bring positive effects too. Always try to think with reasons on paper to make change positive and productive. Change is good always if we do proper positive analysis of every aspect.
Effects of change : When we get acquainted with the effects of its changes, we become alert to that change. Our brain get aware of the situation to face. It will get easier for person to adopt change. Clear conversation and discussion help to create safe environment for change.
3 C's : Choice, Care, Control : 3 c's can help a person to control change at all level in life. Choice we made if we are clear of it and we care for it in all ways then we can easily control the change. But we need this mature behavior by everyone around us. A single mind understanding is failure for all.
Lets make change ease as its inevitable, its better to learn how to control it. Never be rude to yourself, while change comes in life we get more emotional and forget to become practical. Its ok if you are stressed, depressed and burnout. Professional help can be the solution. Stay happy Stay good.
